Adding Toys to Sex

Sex is erotic play time for adults. And we all know the best play dates include fun toys. Are you curious about adding toys during sex? Read on for the benefits of adding sex toys, how to talk to your partner about it, and what positions you can try tonight.

Benefits of Adding Sex Toys

One benefit of adding sex toys is that toys make sex easier. Shower sex is a good example. Sex in the shower is, well, steamy, but not always easy to accomplish. Bringing a waterproof toy to the shower to make sex a little easier.

If you need to give your neck or tongue a break during a cunnilingus session, grab a toy. The toy can change up the stimulation for the receiver, and you can take a breather.

Sex toys are emotionless, free from STI’s, and as long as they’re charged up, reliable in their performance. Another benefit of bringing sex toys into play with your partner is reduced anxiety. If you or your partner deal with performance anxiety concerns, adding a sex toy can relieve pressure and allow you to relax and enjoy the pleasure in the moment.

For some folks, sex toys are taboo, especially when used during partnered sex. Playing in the realm of the taboo may be exciting and heighten arousal.

Communicate with Your Partner

It’s a good idea to talk with your partner about adding toys before you just whip one out of the drawer. 

Talk to your partner about how you want to use toys during your sexual encounters together. You may want to use a vibrator for clitoral stimulation. Or maybe you want to bring in a toy to change things up for a penis. After all, sex toys are designed to fit into spaces and provide sensations that human body parts simply cannot.

If you are into edging, or want to see what all the fuss is about, a sex toy can help hold off orgasm while prolonging arousal and pleasure.

And maybe you just want to try something new or different, like pegging or double penetration, and you need a sex toy to make it happen.

Discuss with your partner what toys you would be interested in trying with them. Tell them what type of toys you want to add, how you want to incorporate the toys into sex, and how you think it may enhance pleasure and provide a new experience. Ask them about what toys interest them that they might like to try with you.

Positions for Using Sex Toys

So what positions are going to give you easy access for using toys? You can use your imagination and have fun figuring out what works best for you and your partner. Here are a few suggestions to get you started...

Standing or Lying Down Facing Each Other

Facing each other with a little space between you gives easy access for mutual masturbation. In a mutual masturbation session, you can bring in sex toys that you may not use during intercourse like a penis masturbation sleeve or a rabbit-style toy.

Cowgirl and Reverse Cowgirl

In cowgirl and reverse cowgirl, you have a lot of hot options. Two sex toy suggestions for these positions are a finger vibrator and a vibrating cock ring. In this position, the person on top can control the rhythm of the grind, and by using a toy, they can control the clitoral stimulation.

Doggie-Style

In a classic doggie-style position, the distance between your vulva and the surface beneath you allows room to add some bigger toys. This is a perfect position for using a wand-style toy for clitoral stimulation on the person who’s kneeling.

Missionary and Modified Missionary

Missionary, or a modified missionary position, in which the person on bottom has their hips propped up on a pillow or wedge, is not necessarily boring. You can spice up missionary sex with a bullet vibrator or a couple’s vibrator to add sensation or a butt plug to add a feeling of fullness for you and your partner.

Grab your partner and a toy or two and enjoy some erotic adult play time. Which position will you try first?