Ways to Seduce Your Partner

Are you having good sex but want to add an element of seduction? Whether you want to turn up the heat with a new partner or reinvigorate the sexual energy in a long-term relationship, we’ve got you covered! In this blog post, we’re sharing some practical ways to seduce your partner.

Seduction is gender and sexual-orientation-neutral. Regardless of who you are or who you have sex with, you can boost desire and add novelty to your sex life by discovering how your partner likes to be seduced. Just remember that consent comes before seduction, not the other way around.

Everyone has different turn-ons and turn-offs. So have fun experimenting with some of these ways to seduce your partner:

Surprise Your Partner with Spontaneous Sex

Set up a sexy surprise that will thrill your partner. This basically means you make the plans for what will be spontaneous sex for them.

You may want to ask them weeks or even months in advance what kind of surprise would turn them on, and don’t mention it again for a while. Then whip out the surprise when they’re least expecting it.

You could surprise them when they walk in the door from work or a dog walk. Have the living room set up for sex with lube, blankets, pillows, toys, and an adult movie cued up, if they’re into that.

Or, surprise them with sexual touch at an unusual time and place. If you’ve been out together, before you get out of the car, you could give them a spontaneous handjob or fingering! If you're out to dinner, maybe graze their inner thigh under the table. Get creative!

Build Anticipation

Instead of going from zero to intercourse when you get home from date night, what if you slowed it down? Like, really slow it down. To the point that it becomes unbearable.

Start seducing your partner long before you get naked together. Titillate their mind and their senses, so they build anticipation for hours or even days before sex.

Instead of going straight for intercourse, give them an erotic massage that does not involve genital touch (other erogenous zones are optional) for 30 minutes or longer. After you’ve given them sensual touch for a while, you could ask them to return the favor. And after you’ve both had a turn, then move on to sex.

Preparing for an event builds anticipation, right? So, if you plan to have sex on Saturday evening after date night, start seducing your partner early in the week. An example could be to buy a new lube on Tuesday and send them a pic of it. On Thursday, send a sext that says, “counting down the days till I make you come.” On Saturday morning, set out your sex toys on the bed - vibes, restraints, dongs, strokers, whatever you’re into. Their imagination will run wild.

Revise Your Sex Script

It’s easy to get into a sex rut, especially if you and your partner(s) have been together for years. Breaking from routine can seduce your partner and turn you on too!

Try something totally new that is on the edge of your comfort zone. Or, take something that you do all the time and reframe it.

Instead of keeping self-pleasure to solo play, you could self-pleasure with your partner. You know how to get yourself off when you’re alone; maybe you could do it with your partner watching. Masturbate in front of them, and don’t let them touch you until you say so. Maybe invite them to masturbate at the same time. Make eye contact while you’re doing it.

Play with giving and receiving with your partner in a way different from how you typically do it. In other words, do the same things you always do, but shift the energy and intention around it. For example, if you usually ask them what they want you to do when you’re giving oral sex, reverse it and be direct about what you want to do to them. You could say, “I want to put you in my mouth and have my way with you for the next 15 minutes. This is for me.” 

There you have it - a few practical ways to bring seduction into your sex life. What are your and your partner's favorite seduction moves?